As humans, we all have our individual opinions on what makes an outstanding friend, colleague or family member.
I’m sure there would be a common theme amongst most; kindness, compassion, and humor to name a few.
I dare not take the easy way out and will gladly lay my cards on the table. Loyalty is what I look for in anyone I become intertwined with whether it is a professional or personal relationship.
I wouldn’t ask anyone to give anything above what I, myself offer. If you are my friend, you will have my undying loyalty unless or until you give me reason not to.
If someone is disloyal to me, I am a very unforgiving person and have no problem cutting the thread that binds us. While my reaction is swift, it is necessary. No need to give a person a second chance to burn me. I’m a quick learner and believe in self preservation.
Loyalty is what relationships are built on and when tough times come, it is what is tested most. Anyone can claim true friendship or devotion, but it’s those who will have your back when you have no way of knowing they do.
True loyalty is someone who supports you under any circumstance with nothing to gain and whom share the same principles. Often times, loyalty comes with sacrifice. It’s about being there for others even when it may not be convenient for you.
To me, if opportunity controls your loyalty then your character is flawed.
But life isn’t always that easy. Unfortunately, expectations of loyalty often come with disappointment. It arrives when you’re in your darkest hour and those you expect to be there aren’t. Tough times reveal real and loyal friends. Rather than be discouraged, take note and purge those who are friends of convenience to you.
Life is constantly evolving and so are we as humans. We live and we learn.
With loyalty comes responsibility. Loyalty isn’t “yesing” your friend to death. Loyalty is playing devil’s advocate or having those hard conversations with your loved one when no one else is. To me, loyalty equates to honesty.
Money and material things will fluctuate in one’s life, but good moral character is the barometer for which I choose my friends and which I want to be recognized for.
The older we get, the wiser we get thus the smaller the circle of those we trust and rely on. True character will always reveal itself so pay attention.