I’ll start today’s blog by acknowledging that social media is the root of all evil. Now that we agree, I can move on.
I, like many, scroll endlessly on social media out of boredom or addiction or both. I yearn to find dog videos since they automatically put me in a good mood but find they only fill a fraction of my time on these platforms which is total bullshit. MORE DOG VIDEOS PLEASE!
The art of conversation is gone and it has been overrun by passive aggressive judgmental posts. I’d be remiss if I didn’t come clean that I have called out people from time to time but it’s become much more brutal of late.
Here’s the part that I can’t get behind or understand. Truly, can’t.
People have come to an all-time low to judge others suffering.
Like the movie Groundhog Day, I see the same toned posts. How dare you complain about your suffering when there is other suffering going on?
So, it begs the question, is one suffering greater than the other. Is it mutually exclusive?
If you were to fracture both legs and I broke my finger, does it mean my finger hurts less than your broken legs or are we both suffering?
If a family member passes and your beloved pet passes does that mean that my heart should hurt less?
If I am under stress because I can barely make ends meet due to rising costs but around the world there is war, is my suffering or anxiety less? Aren’t both trying to protect their families including providing shelter and meals? Is it relatable? Can’t both parties suffer or is one not allowed to suffer because of the other?
What I’ve learned is judgment says more about the other person than yourself as it is based on assumptions.
Assumptions that being grateful and vocalizing my own suffering cannot be done simultaneously.
I mean, how can a person complain their child is on drugs? They should be grateful they are alive.
Get my point?
The parent will complain their child is on drugs because it’s horrible. Who wants a kid on drugs? Sometimes, there isn’t an upside. Sometimes complaining draws supports from the most unlikely sources and builds a community to lean on.
What if we don’t meet the criteria of someone else’s threshold of when complaining is permissible?
It comes down to the individual’s perception and own expectation of how others should react or behave. Comparisons are immediately drawn as to what they think we ought to be.
Judgment is forcing your views onto another. It’s a dissatisfaction of how others are and wanting them to become the way you want.
If only we all could shed the heavy burden of judging, we’d all carry a lighter load.